One day after being totally exhausted with worrying, I sat down and thought, what exactly was I gaining from worrying. In short, nothing. Not only was I making myself feel worse, I was making it much more difficult to find ways to create solutions to the issues I was actually worrying about. I realised that I was using up so much energy worrying, that it made me wonder, how I could channel that energy more effectively.
The result? I now never worry. It doesn't mean I'm nochalant about everything, it means I put things into perspective, work things through and come up with realistic and workable solutions.
I want to share with you my fail safe way to stop the worry habit.
I realised that if I wrote down what I was worried about, I could break things down more easily seeing it in front of me, and then start to tackle things properly. I created a worry log that I found extremely useful.
I drew a table with six columns with the following headings:-
- My worry
- What's the worst that can happen?
- What's the best that can happen?
- What's the most likely outcome?
- What do I have to do to achieve the best outcome?
- What actually happened?
The best part of the worry log I think is column 6. This bit is the real winner, not only are you recording the outcome for you to look back on and learn from it, but it is a key feature in helping you to realise that the worst very rarely happens and if it does, there is always an upside.
The next time you find yourself worrying about something, use your own worry log to help you work through your worry, and I guarantee that you will have new perspective, a clearer head and will at the very least have reduced the amount you are worrying!
Copyright Elizabeth Bacchus
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